REVIEWS OF MY BOOK

THESE ARE A FEW PORTIONS OF EMAILS THAT I HAVE RECEIVED FROM WOMEN THAT HAVE BEEN ENCOURAGED BY MY BOOK. THEY DESCRIBED THE MANY DIFFERENT AREAS THAT THIS BOOK MINISTERS TO.

Dear Friends In Christ,
The Hankes have given us a “ministry in a book.” The material is incredibly detailed yet compassionate. As a man, I had no idea the depth of grief a woman can feel in the loss of her unborn child. This book provides invaluable counsel for couples to help each other get through this very private time of pain. What a wonderful Biblical counseling aid for pastors and churches!
Thank you Tricia and Matthew for opening your hearts to the Lord before us so that we might be edified and encouraged.
Dr. Joel Spencer
Ambassador Baptist College


I cannot tell you how much it meant to read your story! I sat down and read it the entire way through! Your story is VERY similar to mine. I have been dealing with so many emotions ever since it happened, and have had a lot of days when I felt very alone and that nobody knew how I was feeling. Everything you said really hit home, and for the first time in months I have not felt so alone in this journey.
Your book has been such blessing to me!!! I am sorry for the loss of your son Jeremiah.
Thank you for writing this book. It has truly been a help to me, and I am sure it will be a help to so many more women!
Mitzy

I am feeling so much pain over the loss of my little one, who I never even held in my arms & only carried in my womb a few weeks. It is a very lonely grief.
I am so thankful that you wrote your book & that you are letting God use you to comfort others. You are truly a blessing! I'm so glad you are spreading the message about the value of the life of the unborn child! I am greatly encouraged by your words.
Lisa

Jake here, Lisa's husband. I saw the email and thought I'd add a couple cents' worth. Thank you for being so kind to Lisa. She has really been blessed by your friendship and this horrible experience has been made lighter by your effort. You are doing the Lord's work and I encourage you to continue (with Lisa and other women who are suffering through this trial). You have been a true blessing and a better friend to my wife than many who are physically present.
Jake

I read it all then and there! I just want to also say thank you so very much for writing such a special book. I will be recommending this to our chaplain on the military base. As you can see, it has touched me, and I think anyone going through this needs to read this book.
Laura

I am going to school to be a neonatal ICU nurse, so I thought your book could help me understand what parents are going through when they lose their newborn child. It's a bit different, I'm sure, from miscarrying or going through a stillbirth, but there are few books relating to the topic. I'm so sorry you have gone through this experience but I'm very grateful that you have chosen to share this so we can have a better understanding.
Rachel

I ended up reading it all at once. It really helped me, especially with refocusing on God. I think the hardest part of going through this a 2nd time, was feeling angry with Him this time around. Thanks again so much for being willing to share your family's story!
Alyson

My pastor lent me his copy of your book. It was really touching. Thank you for being brave enough to write about your circumstance. I am sure it has/will help a lot of people.
Ashley

Hello, I received your book today. I read it cover to cover during my son’s nap. Thank you for sharing your story. There really isn't that many books out there that deal with this subject. I have read a number of them but your was the first that was one woman’s personal story with at the end an encouragement to respond. I really related to your story…..Again, Thank you so much for your book.
Angela

I was praying that there would be a special book that I could give to my daughter who recently experienced the exact same thing, plus a false pregnancy shortly after. Her pain is immense and she feels like she is the only one going through this. This book is a God-send!! Colleen

I would like to start out with how sorry I am that you had to go through this experience as we know how hard it is...but I actually am the Grandma and my daughter just recently lost her baby and my first grandchild Natalie. We also never thought anything like this.
I too lost a twin baby when I was 16 weeks pregnant with my last baby. Speaking of how many people this touches...my cousin was pregnant 6 years ago with a little girl. She was one day over due so they said to go home and pack her bag that the next day they would induce labor. The baby had died that night.
Lori

That feeling of unrecoverable loss and sadness is just killing me slowly. Not a day goes by without me thinking about it, and it’s been 3 months now. I enjoy reading on this subject; it makes me feel less alone.
Amber

I purchased your book for a couple of women in our church, hoping that it would help them. We have had lots of women lose their babies in the past year, and I would love to help them. I have a friend who is not a believer that lost a baby about 9 mos ago at 8 weeks and she is really having a tough time.
Jerett

Your book was amazing. I really appreciate you sharing your story with not only me, but the public. To take such an intimate part of yourself and share it with the world is no small feat.
I was very fortunate to have a wonderful husband to lean on when I needed to be picked up, but not all women have that. I am sure your book will be a great source of strength, comfort, and faith building to many!
Having read your story and seeing your precious baby I feel almost like I know you. It's weird how we have a common bond with other women that have been through this too. We're Survivors.
Christy

One thing that did bother me is that I couldn't find out information about what happens to your body after a miscarriage. There is a lot of books about your body during pregnancy, but not for a miscarriage.
I want to thank you again for writing your book. It was a help to us. Men need to know how to deal with this kind of loss and how to give comfort too.
I also want to thank you for letting the Lord use your tragedy to help others. I think it is a wonderful ministry that the Lord has given you. Now more than ever, I've seen the need in this area.
Emily
…..Thank you for offering this book. I really appreciate! It's such a hard subject to talk about with people who haven't gone through a miscarriage before. I never thought that I would be dealing with this. …..
Johanna

As a mother who recently lost her own precious baby, I understand and know far too well the devastating grief and pain associated with miscarriage. Thank you for putting your loss into words and may God bless.
Bonnie

Thank you for reaching out to me. Please keep me in your prayers as I find myself desperately in pain from this loss. My surviving twin boy is a constant reminder of this.
Norma

I enjoyed the book. I read it all the night I brought it home.
I found great comfort in your book because I now know I am not the only one going through it.
Christina

I received the book on Friday and am half way through reading it. I can relate to a lot of what you have written, particularly the chapter I just read about everything around you being a reminder of your unborn baby. Thanks for writing such a wonderful book and having it available for sale.
Tracy

I did enjoy your book, some of the things you wrote I have felt verbatim. The part about looking at yourself one Sunday morning in a maternity dress and having the horrible thoughts about miscarriage, I was there!!
Michelle

I think it's so wonderful of you to share your personal pain & heartache in order to help others through what you have been through. I pray that many people will find your product when they need it, and that many pastors will buy it as a resource to help others.
Leonie

Heather - baby boy

My son Conner was stillborn last April due to a clot in the placenta. I was 38 weeks along with him.

Mitzy - Thank You

Another note from Mitzy,
I JUST GOT YOUR BOOK IN THE MAIL TODAY! I sat down & read it the entire way through. I cannot tell you how much it meant to read your story! Yours is very similar to mine.
I have been dealing with so many emotions ever since it happened, and have alot of days when I felt very alone & that nobody knew how I was feeling. Everything you said really hit home, and for the first time in months, I have not felt so alone in this journey.
Your book has been such a blessing to me!!!
I am sorry for the loss of your son Jeremiah, but I am rejoicing with you for his life & that someday we will meet our babies in Heaven!!
Thank you for writing this book. It has truly been a help to me, and I am sure it will be a help to so many more women.
God Bless!
Mitzy

Mitzy & baby girl

My name is Mitzy, and I have 2 wonderful boys, but last year I had a miscarriage in Sept. I was 12 weeks along when our doctor told me my baby had passed at 11 weeks 1 day...this was our girl, and we were very devastated! God has been helping us through this so much as well as our family and friends have been supportive.
I am looking forward to this book, because...it has been almost 8 months since this happened, but I am still very sad, and I have days when I feel very deep sadness. It is hard to explain it to my family because they kinda feel like I should be over it now...and sometimes I feel like they have forgotten her, because they never got to hold her.
Holidays are still hard, like Christmas was really bad, and her due date was very bad. She was due March 29th, 2006 and now we are coming up on Mother's Day, but once again I am feeling very sad all over again...I mean I am thankful to God for the 2 boys I have, But I soo miss my little girl.
Sometimes I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to, because if I do start talking about things, people look at me like why am I talking about it, and that I should have moved on by now. It makes me very angry!!
I believe your book is going to be a great help to me during this time in my life. I will keep you posted once I read it.
Thanks so much Mitzy

Another note from Mitzy,
We didn't technically know that the baby we lost was a girl, but my husband and I felt very strongly that it was. I was very sick the first trimester with all my pregnancies, it was to the point of being severely dehydrated & couldn't keep anything down, and I lost about 20 lbs with each.
Well, on Sept 19 I woke up around 7 in the morning and was having some cramping & spotting. I called the doctor & they had me come in for an ultrasound just to be on the safe side & to see what was going on. While the technician was taking measurements, she looked at me & said, "I'm sorry, I don't see a heartbeat." Those horrible words are still very clear in my mind to this day!
The doctor said the baby had passed away about a week before which ironically enough is the weekend of Sept. 11th. I was scheduled to have a D&C the next day. My husband & I both prayed that night for peace. through all this & fast recovery, for what was ahead.
The next morning I woke up at 6 am with alot of cramping, that went on for a few hours & got worse & closer together. My girlfriend called me to pray, and as she was praying over me I felt something drop in my stomach. After I got off the phone I stood up and I started bleeding very badly, so my husband rushed me to the ER & once they got me calmed down they prepped me for the D&C.
The doctor told me my body had gone through the labor process to expel the baby. The baby had slid down the vagina area & all the doctor had to do was pull her out. She was in one tiny piece, just very, very tiny. I asked the doctor if she could tell what it was & she said not really, but we both knew it was.
Leaving the hospital was the worst thing in the world, because I went through all the labor pains and went home empty handed. I totally understand you about the depressing feeling of everyone around you having babies. Two of my friends were pregnant at the same time I was & we all due within 3 weeks of each other. They had their babies, both girls.
This has been the hardest journey of my life, But I am very thankful to God, because he has helped me every step of the way!
I will email you once I read the book. Thanks so much, Mitzy

Beginning of HHH2H

I am setting this website up to try to make connections between those of us who share this common bond of miscarriage / stillbirth. I will be posting stories on here of those that have written me & given me the go ahead to publish them. May it provide comfort, help, and support to those who need it.